WARNING...The following blog entry you are about to read may seem like an attack on the male species, but is actually just a curious thought in the back of my mind on the subject of chivalry & gentlemen like actions. Do they still exist or has it all gone to the dogs?
So, does the 'gentleman' actually still exist in this day in age? I ask myself this question as I find myself catching a bus home in the dark, pulling out my own chair, opening my own door, yada, yada, yada. I don't actually think any of the above really matters...I mean, can't we all open doors & pay for meals ourselves nowadays?
But I am curious to know if it's a malfunction in boy's brains that cuts off any thoughtful thinking, or maybe it's because it's harder for guys to act chivalrous because the girls aren't really acting like ladies? Whaddya reckon!?
xxx j
(And yes, I did check with the hubby about posting this & he just told me to do the dishes.....now.) Kidding! He's a gent.
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Ahh yes....well I believe that the feminist movement may have something to do with it, also the lack of fathers or older male figures who do know what it means to be a gentleman.
Are there any suggestions for us the 'mere' males who walk this earth.
There is a great deal of lack of respect for men in general. Women need love, men need respect it is the first need of the sexes, maybe if we start there?
I think it's really important for us christian boys to develop that. I want people to see me being respectful etc, and wonder why i'm so different. If anyone actually ever asked, i'd tell them that i do it because Jesus would have done it. It's a first impressions thing...
For this reason, i always let older people onto buses first, give up my seats for them, and yes, i have even helped an old lady across the street before. Twice! I'm not joking.
Not to be self righteous. I still consider myself an arrogant little _____. But i'm getting better.
Boys just need God, Jess :-)
Call me old fashioned but I still like a guy to open a door for me, let me walk through a doorway first or at least offer to walk me out to my car if its dark and I'm leaving say the moon cafe in Northbridge which is not really a place I'd want to walk by myself at night even though i have a black belt in karate. (just kidding)
But then I think guys also should'nt have to be over the top with gentlemenness (great word) because girls are quite the capable species believe it or not and I also think that girls can pay for their own meals unless they know that they'll be shouting at another time.
Dave - suggestions? I agree with the lack of male role models in the household. That's where it all starts & ends I guess...but believe it or not there's still hope! I think girls just want to be considered different from the 'blokes' sometimes...that's all. Then I guess it's our choice whether to accept the gesture or not.
And being a gentleman doesn't mean you are romantically involved by the way! 1 Tim 5:2 - (yes I have whipped out the bible in the internet cafe)...'treat younger woman as sisters...'
Ms Jess,
Be still, my beating heart.
You go girl!
AMP
Dave I agree with you. I was just wondering if some guys thought being a gentleman somehow deducts them from being macho... and I think respect is often earned by actions done. sorry just a random speal.
shame
i gotta agree with ya there, marjie, you go girl :P
Take me, for example... i am lucky enough to have two awesome, supportive men whom i both call 'dad'. (Broken families can turn out very well sometimes).
But despite whatever a psychologist might say, i don't think those men had any more than 25% influence...
I don't do these things because "that's how i was brought up". I do them because Christ would, and while i'm here on this earth, i represent Christ.
It's also for Christ that i self-assess, and realise how much more of a gentleman i still need to become...
Feminist movement is a possibility i agree dave...
What happened to our shallow mindless posts with just photos and superficial comments. Jess is provoking some serious debate here. Even drawing AMP and Nelson out of the woodwork. You go Jess...
You may be worth having on after all :)
Question tell me what you think about me i buy my own diamonds and i buy my own rings... yatata yata yata yata... girl power... what the???
I think feminism has done some damage to both genders...
Jess you're my BFF :)
Wow! Great comments...I just commented to get my ratings up by the way. I agree Nelson. And Moozh...is it BFF or stalker? x
its not dead.. its just sleeping.. i think as guys we have gotten slack and unthoughtful..at least thats me.. i dont know about other guys..and it doesnt mean that we're ALL like that.. or even that we'll ALWAYS be like that.. but yeah its a shame..
Hah..hah...You'll never beleive this..but I am currently doing an assigment on this topic..and its due today...
The changing dynamics of family...and the power given to the different genders...
It's crazy...
Good post Jess...Keep it up!!
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